Want to move away with daughter

[stuckincalifornia]

I live in California and share court ordered 50/50 custody of my 3 1/2 year
old daughter with my ex-husband. My fiance lives in South Carolina and is
having a very difficult time finding a job that is comparable in position
and pay to his current management job since he does not possess a degree.
I am considering moving to South Carolina since I am an RN and will not
have any difficulty finding a job. I definetely want to take my daughter
with me but I know that I would not be able to without a battle in court
with her dad. I'm not trying to move away out of malice for her father,
in fact we get along very well but I don't think I have to be chained to
high priced California and sacrifice being happy and raising a family with
a man that I completely love and adore just because my ex lives here. I've
even suggested that he move to SC as well so that her relationship with her
father will continue as is but, of course he wasn't going for that. My
daughter absolutely adores my fiance and his 8 year old daughter (who he
raises alone) and as young as my daughter is, she's very smart and always
asks when we will all be together. If my fiance and I are married before
I ask the court for a move away order, would I have a better chance of
winning the case?

[SCREWEDBYJUDGEJAMESREED]

Leave the child with Dad and follow your dreams. Let domestic relations
attach your income. It will save you postage. Your X hopefully will get
about $400/month unless you are a motivated individual and work overtime in
which case he could get more. Remember they can't take any more than 50% of
your income.

Seriously, turn the situation around.
Would you follow your X who relocates across the country following his
"fiance"?

Would your X not be the most selfish pig if he tried to move your daughter
away from you for some uncommitted relationship?

Wouldn't any human being who relocates for any reason, putting hundreds of
miles between parent and child go straight to hell?

Why not take the child support your X pays and put your new man through
school. That way when you reproduce with him and your marriage fails, you
will have taken a proactive approach in increasing your child support
payments for the new child. Think...think...think silly.

Post by stuckincalifornia
I live in California and share court ordered 50/50 custody of my 3 1/2 year
old daughter with my ex-husband. My fiance lives in South Carolina and is
having a very difficult time finding a job that is comparable in position
and pay to his current management job since he does not possess a degree.
I am considering moving to South Carolina since I am an RN and will not
have any difficulty finding a job. I definetely want to take my daughter
with me but I know that I would not be able to without a battle in court
with her dad. I'm not trying to move away out of malice for her father,
in fact we get along very well but I don't think I have to be chained to
high priced California and sacrifice being happy and raising a family with
a man that I completely love and adore just because my ex lives here.

I've

Post by stuckincalifornia
even suggested that he move to SC as well so that her relationship with her
father will continue as is but, of course he wasn't going for that. My
daughter absolutely adores my fiance and his 8 year old daughter (who he
raises alone) and as young as my daughter is, she's very smart and always
asks when we will all be together. If my fiance and I are married before
I ask the court for a move away order, would I have a better chance of
winning the case?

[stuckincalifornia]

Thanks for the reply but it sounds like you are the one with the money
issue being that child support is the main objective in your reply. He
does not pay me child support nor do i pay him because we are both able to
support her financially on our own. Read very carefully before you reply.
My original question is if a move would not be as complicated if we were
married BEFORE I request a move-away from the court. Why should I be in
bondage with her father and not be able to be happy somewhere else when it
was his idea to get a divorce for the benefit of our, then, unborn child
after just 6 months of marriage????? Also, eventhough she loves her
father, it is VERY apparent that my daughter prefers to be with me.